we all have dreams of a fairy-tale wedding, but it may be an unrealistic imagination that has been created by us to get the feeling of pleasure through imagination.
We love to marry princesses, but we fall for frogs.
You can read more about partner selection in the book “Don’t Marry a Frog.” It’s one of the best books for understanding long-term relationships. In this blog, I have written my own perspective on what can be checked before getting into a long-term, stable married relationship.
Emotional Maturity
Did you know some people exhibit aggressive behavior when they are unable to cope with stress? They shout at their partner for small mistakes they make. They may cause verbal abuse or even some physical abuse, like slapping, during your dating phase. These guys are a big ‘NO TO MARRIAGE.’
Your conversations should be a ‘win-win situation,’ but if he does not listen to your opinion on how you feel, he is a big red flag for a long, stable relationship.
Open Discussion on Financial Stability
You have every right to know his income and debt that he had before marriage for better family planning in your future.
You should know how much money he spends on monthly loans and EMIs, which is a primary concern regarding how well he/she will match your lifestyle.
nuclear or joint family
Don’t pretend to be a good girl for the sake of your family; be open to conveying your likes and dislikes to your fiancé to prevent emotional wounds among both families.
Your Career Goals
Some women like to work.
Some women wish to be homemakers. If that’s her choice, you should validate her feelings by not degrading her in terms of the money you get from her to pay off your monthly EMI—‘HEY, SAID JUST FOR FUN.’
Whatever the case, you should validate her choices and opinions.
Check Your Health
Definitely a big no to ‘smoking and alcohol’ if you plan for immediate childbirth.
For more clarity, you should go for a couple’s pre-marital health checkup or pre-marital counseling for better understanding. You can spend some money for your future well-being.
